Summer has begun

It looks like the rain is finally coming to a halt here. My husband and daughter have been getting the pool ready. We have had short discussions about what to do on the 4th. But haven’t really settled on anything. It’s still early.

I will start looking for sales on coke and water bottles because no matter what we do we will use them this summer. Holiday sales are the best times to stock up.

Meat for the grill is another item to look for on sale this time of year. Find the best deals and fill the freezer.

Maybe next week we can get our father day or 4th plans settled.


Father’s Day

It’s just around the corner. Have you started thinking about what to get the dad’s in your life?

This is not as easy as getting mom a gift. A plant or flowers seem to be all a mom wants. Although this year I wanted a wooden rocking chair for my front porch (got it)!

The dads in our life deserve some special attention. Many times their work goes unnoticed. They may go from work to picking up kids to starting or making dinner. They play multiple roles in a family.

The things they want many times we have no understanding of. My husband wants a chain saw. I have no clue how to pick a chain saw. But I will shop, ask questions and take notes. And in the end, if I get the wrong one he can exchange it. I am not afraid!

So ask your dad or your hubby what they might want. Be brave. If they say something you would have no clue how to pick, see if they have a preference for brand, color, size or power level. Ask if they have done any research. If not, well you can do your own. The internet is an amazing thing.

Think about the dad you are looking for, ask questions, research on line or at the store. Then go out and buy the gift. You got this!


5 Steps to a Great 4th of July

The 4th of July is right around the corner for those who love to celebrate. I love the music, the fireworks, the red, white and blue and of course the time spent with family out doors.

Last year we made some great memories with little effort. The youth and college groups came over for food, fun  and fireworks.  We spent the whole afternoon and late into the night in our backyard swimming, talking, eating and finally shooting off fire works.  Everyone contributed to the fireworks and food.  I think the last little group left around midnight.

This year, do we want to stay home and fill up that ice chest and hang out by our pool.  Maybe start the day out with a local parade. I haven’t really talked with my family yet but this might be a good conversation to have this weekend.

We need to narrow it down in the next 2 weeks so all the planning will not fall the week before. I strive for peaceful holidays and in order to do this I need to have a plan in place.

In the next 2 weeks, I plan on looking into some local 4th of July activities on line, having some family conversations,and doing a little shopping for summer sales.

5 steps for planning the 4th of July:

1. Research activities online

2. Family Conversation

3.Finalize my plans and make list of needs

4. Do the shopping

5. Involve the family in that days preparations. Then Celebrate your peaceful, stress free holiday!


Summer holidays

20190527_133252My husband knows one of my favorite sounds is the slosh of the ice chest full of ice and soda  as we take it outside.  That sound brings peace to my soul.  Great family memories are in the making.

It’s not hard to have a great time during the summer holidays.  All you need is food, drinks and a game or too.

1. Load up the ice chest

2. Get some good meat to grill and some chips.  A potatoes salad or Cole slaw make a great addition.  And of course strawberries or blue berries with an angel food cake and whipped topping.

3.  Get an out door game.  It tends to be windy in Oklahoma but we love cards.  Some other games we have are yard jenga and bocce yard ball.  My mother bought Crockett to add to the mix.

4.  To end the night have a fire and roast marshmallows. (Throwing marshmallows at each other thus having a marshmallow war is another in expensive and memorable game that has been know to erupt at our house.)

Shop early, plan for a game  and food, then sit back on the 4th of July and watch everyone play.  What great memories you will have.  I’m already stocking up on red, white, and blue.





Advent week 3: Joy

There is only one more weekend before Christmas. Are you keeping the focus? Maintaining the JOY? Or are you feeling frazzled and stressed?

I challenge you to set your table for joy. What can you do to take control of these next few days? HOW DO YOU SET TOUR TABLE FOR JOY? If you neglect to set your table, there will be no feast. The holiday will pass you by and you will have missed the peace that is brought through the baby in the manger.

How can you set your table? It is time to get real about what we can and cannot do? Is there anything that needs to go by the wayside? Let it go! Do you need to sit and make a list of all that needs to get done? Do you need to spend time with your family or time in prayer and reading about the Christ? Whatever you need, do it now. Make room for the manger and the peace it affords.

Then sit back and feel the love of Christ and the joy he brings.



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That is what they always tell you on an airplane. I always wondered if I could do that when my little ones were little. It seemed so unnatural. But, if I was to be able to save my children that was what was needed.

I think this is good advice to remember this time of year. If I loose my peace of mind, so will my family.

What can you do this week to put on your oxygen mask? A cup of coffee while shopping, a hot bath or just light a candle and have popcorn for dinner.

Re evaluate all your lists and delegate what you can. Set times to do whatever else needs to get done and decide to let go of the rest.

Have peace this holiday season.


Rest this Season

My daughter told me she had read something that said women view Christmas season as the most stressful times of the year. That statement left me feeling down. I explained to her that was why I made my binder. So I can know where I am in preparations at all times. No worries.

Celebrating the birth of Christ should not rob our peace. Christ came to bring peace and joy to our lives.

This year our advent has been about feeling the love of Christ. Experiencing His peace. We have journaled about taking control of our lives and setting the atmosphere to enable each one of us to feel His love. This must be intentional in this crazy season.

A few thing I have done to prepare my environment to allow me to feel the love of Christ are as follows:

  • Get up before everyone, light the fireplace, grab a cup of coffee and sit in the quiet with my Bible and journal
  • Leave work for an hour in the middle of the day to run errands and grab a cup of coffee
  • Check my lists frequently so I don’t get behind and loose sight of Christ’s love for me
  • Delegate!!! I am getting better at this. It can make me feel guilty but ultimately it allows me more quality time with my loved ones
  • Combine date night with Christmas errands (distress while getting it done)
  • Find peace somewhere in everyday-a quiet moment and be grateful for what God has given you

Some of these may not sound as if they allow me to feel Christ’s love for me. But when I am feeling the pressure of all the demands of Christmas and all of the expectations, I am tense and cannot let His love in. It is when I am able to let go that I feel His love and peace through the holidays.